If u love someone, u won't care about worrying for him/her. It's a pleasure to serve him/her, as a part of his/her life esp in those hard time.
If the family knew that beforehand, they will know how to "treasure" the time they have together and how they can serve their beloved one. When he/her passes away, they can have no regret.
Facing a sudden death brings a lot of emotional and psychological impact to one person. It is not easy or even terribly difficult to overcome through out the whole life. It is much easier to manage the grief if u can expect what's going to happen in the future.
It's not romantic to do such action ...or may i say, it is a bit selfish to do that. You "think" yourself is doing something good to your relatives but actually not. If u put yourself into somebody's shoes, I definitely don't want my relative telling lies about his health then suddenly passes away. That's a disaster!
Maggie: Are you Maggie of GNM? I agree and stand at your side! Yes, this will bring more pain to your family esp. when they think they should have done this and that if they knew before .... so and so ...
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其實有時我都會想, 將來如果自己萬一患重病, 或許我都不會讓人知, 靜靜的等到離去的那一天... 因為我非常明白家人擔心的痛苦, 實在不忍心身邊的人去為自己擔心。
同時, 我也會覺得衰衰的一樣嘢, 就是希望藉此可以叫身邊的人都學會「珍惜眼前人」, 別等到一個人離去時, 才回想自己一直不懂珍惜, 失去時才覺得內疚...
I don't think it is a proper way to manage it...
If u love someone, u won't care about worrying for him/her. It's a pleasure to serve him/her, as a part of his/her life esp in those hard time.
If the family knew that beforehand, they will know how to "treasure" the time they have together and how they can serve their beloved one. When he/her passes away, they can have no regret.
Facing a sudden death brings a lot of emotional and psychological impact to one person. It is not easy or even terribly difficult to overcome through out the whole life. It is much easier to manage the grief if u can expect what's going to happen in the future.
It's not romantic to do such action ...or may i say, it is a bit selfish to do that. You "think" yourself is doing something good to your relatives but actually not. If u put yourself into somebody's shoes, I definitely don't want my relative telling lies about his health then suddenly passes away. That's a disaster!
Maggie: Are you Maggie of GNM? I agree and stand at your side! Yes, this will bring more pain to your family esp. when they think they should have done this and that if they knew before .... so and so ...
若是不幸的事情已經發生，人只有懊悔、怨恨的機會，又何解有「珍惜」？所以，我們若想與家人好好的度過餘下短暫的時日，真是要盡快讓他們知道，起碼到了真正面對不幸的事情時，不會太突然至接受不了......既然我們也不知道自己還有多少年日，那現今是否一個機會，要開始學去珍惜呢？求天父指教我們數算自己的日子，好使我們有智慧的心如何去度每一天。
Yes, i'm maggie from GNM. It's only my opinion esp after having hospice care training.
人好 "化學"??!
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